One of the most notable processes of the baby besides growing, is to see how little by little is becoming aware of oneself, forming a personality that gives a unique identity and different from the rest.
In this process of differentiation will play a prominent role the mother, who at first will share a symbiosis that makes him undifferentiated from it. The mother is the one who satisfies all her needs. of care and nourishment, but soon that "source of satisfaction" is going to become "source of frustration", this will happen when the mother does not attend immediately to their requirements, for example of feeding, or that does not devote all the time that the small Demanded.
This is the first time that a distinction is given between the baby as an individual and the "other", the mother, this experiential knowledge is going to be consolidated as the little one takes control of his own body, thus creating the concept of personal image in the That each time will go including more elements, from the most obvious, fingers, hands, feet,… Even others that will discover as they become formed and that will have to do with the dominant traits of their personality.
The baby will go through different stages until he realizes that he is "only" before the outside world, and that this is made up of others who sometimes heed their requirements and others do not. The baby has a great challenge ahead and is to be a person, independent and differentiated from the "others", which are always going to have an important role as they will serve as a model with which to identify, while it serves to be compared.
The "other" is going to be present for the rest of our lives, because thanks to it, we are tall because others are low, fat because others are thin,…., with the "other" we are what we are, more or less than others, wishing and wanting what the "other" has gotten or tie Becoming a source of personal motivation.
Types of personal identities
But so far we are talking about personal identity as a unitary concept, univocal and stable over time, instead we must remember that this identity is composed of different parts:
-The body image, where we think about how we are physically, what we are able or not to do with our muscles (running, swimming,…) as well as our limits. Remember that this is an important factor in certain pathologies in which it is distorted, as happens with anorexia.
–The mental image of ourselves, that is, the consideration we have about our mental abilities and their limits (more or less intelligent,…), fundamental aspect on which the coaching works, since the limits that we believe to have are the first ones that We must overcome so that we can cope with the difficulties and achieve the objectives that we want.
–Sexual identity, which refers to how we feel as a man or as a woman, regardless of our phenotype (differential physical attributes).
–The social identity, which refers to how we feel in the different groups of coexistence in which we participate, whether family, school, work,… But also the group of Companions and friends.
Currently, given the importance that technology is charging in all areas of our lives, a new category has been added:
–Digital identity, which refers to how we see ourselves on the web, based on tastes, desires and hobbies, but also in identifying with our Nick, profile photo or avatar, establishing new social relationships by belonging to communities, forums or Fan groups where it interacts.
At present a great flow of research is being developed on this last identity, trying to understand how it affects our daily life, Facilitándola or Interfiriéndola. Of which new concepts are continually emerging, such as:
–Digital natives versus digital immigrants, defining the first as those who were born after 80 and had from small access to new technologies.
–Online socialization, based on virtual interactivity where new users are known to share and learn from.
It has even begun to talk about pathologies associated with the use of networks as is the case of FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out), or fear of missing the latest, recently identified by the University Of Essex (England) published Computer in Human Behaviour.