Diada mother son
In these lines we will address the importance of the relationship between the mother and her baby, which in the context of evolutionary psychology has been called Diada mother-son.
This Diada acquires special relevance as it will help to form the personality of the small, as well as offer the first experiences with the outside world, where the little one acquires skills and autonomy with respect to his own body.
The research on the importance of the first years of life was put in evidence in the SEVENTEENTH century, due to the famous cases of the wild children, like that of Aveyron. Children who did not receive any kind of social stimulation and who had important shortcomings in terms of their communication skills, which in addition, and despite the efforts of the researchers at the time, could not be overcome to equate to the rest of the Children of their age, thus emerging the theory of the critical period, by which what is not learned at the time can not be learned later.
Also as it had been observed in cases of infantile rickets produced by the lack of vitamin D, due to a lack of nutritional calcium and phosphorus, which led to the desminarilización of the bones and cartilages; Likewise, it was raised in the middle of the NINETEENTH century that the lack of affection in the small ones or an inadequate relation with the mother, triggered a series of consequences on the minor that often did not come to recover, among which it was, a delay in the Development, with incomplete language, without social habits, with great demand for affection and low tolerance for frustration.
At the same time, something that had been documented for a long time was found in German orphanages, where they tried to increase the life expectancy of their children, which was much lower than those of those who lived in a normal family. Despite the efforts to increase the health conditions of orphanages, it was finally found that the important thing was the affection and affection of the caregiver, and his absence caused physical and psychological disorders of development, namely This effect as a hospitalism.
These antecedents highlighted the importance of the first relationships beyond providing care and nourishment. Freud, considered the mother as the first object of desire, because it is through it as it is achieved the food, which will be the first object relationship to evolve, incorporating the elements of the outside world as they increase the capacities of the small .
In the mother-son Diada, the little one will go shaping his personality, so that at the beginning will reflect the needs and shortcomings of his mother, before establishing his own characteristics. Some authors have raised precisely in this reflection of the baby, the origin of the psychosomatic diseases, coming from the personality of the mother, due to its permeability by not having yet formed its own differentiated identity. So a repressive personality on the part of the mother, will make the little everyone could internalize certain habits about handling his emotions that will form part of his personality, which will make him more likely to get sick, as has been observed in ADO lescentes.
Studies on infantile depressions and phenomena such as that of hospitalism corroborate the importance of the mother, not only of her physical presence, but of her emotional implication with the minor, which by a process of introjection will assume the emotional life of the mother.
In this case the term repressor does not mention the term psychoanalytic, which refers to a mechanism of defense, by which the drives are kept in the unconscious without being able to access to the conscious; But a conception where the person exhibits a type C personality, which will be characterized mainly by an inability to identify and express their own emotions, especially negatives, such as anxiety, anger, rage or aggression.